Don’t fall prey to the victim mentality

By Carolyn Hansen 

Attitude is everything. A mental attitude, no matter what the end goal is, will either help you get there or hinder your progress, and one of the most damaging attitudes anyone can adopt is a victim mentality.

What is a victim mentality?

A victim mentality is a negative way of thinking. He blames other people and circumstances for any inner unhappiness.” It’s the proverbial finger-pointing scenario.

Those involved in the victim mentality view life through a narrow pessimistic lens and believe that whatever happens in life is the result of external causes. Internal reflection is never accounted for. To be a victim is to absolve yourself of guilt. Nothing is their fault – never! Those who engage in the victim mentality most often enjoy the attention, sympathy, and recognition they get from playing this “poor me” role.

When we are trapped in the hood of victimhood, we focus on how vulnerable we are rather than how powerful we are.

While no one is born with a victim mentality, no one is exempt from playing the victim role. Sweet elderly grandparents, loving mothers and well-intentioned fathers, teenagers, and even those who are considered “spiritually awakened” all live in this defeated realm.

In fact, every living person has played the role of victim more than once in their life.

Victims want to be mentally prepared for the worst, and unfortunately, for those who dwell in the victimhood, this self-sabotaging behaviour becomes more powerful when things seem to be getting worse because they are certain that “disaster is around the next corner.”

So how does one break free from this self-defeating, “poor me,” pessimistic programming, most of which was developed and adopted as a child?

It all starts at home with your perceptions/how you look at yourself. Do you see yourself as a survivor or a victim?

Survivors embrace life and flow with it. They live in the present and take control of their lives. They are fully aware that they alone are responsible for what happens. They know that when they take responsibility for their lives, they are empowered to change their lives.

On the other hand, victims wallow in self-pity, argue, and reject life. They dwell in the past and believe they are powerless to change circumstances – their key to avoiding responsibility. They live defensively and remain frozen in time without making progress because their perceptions tell them they are powerless.

The cost of a victim mentality is high. It negatively affects every area of ​​life – professional and personal. Those who see themselves as failures dwell in the role of victim because failure only comes to those who give up.

If we really want to move away from the victim mentality, we must first own it. We cannot change what we do not own. We have to change our attitude and know that “change starts with me”. We must embrace survival and take steps… no matter how small or insignificant they may seem now, towards some goal we are trying to achieve.

Most importantly, we must constantly reinforce ourselves with the statements “I can” and “I will” and stop the demeaning statements and beliefs of “I can’t” or “I won’t”.

And we must embrace gratitude—the greatest of attitudes. Every day we need to take time to think about all the things that make us happy, all the things that are going well in our lives. Keeping our mind/energy focused on positive situations helps counteract the victim mentality.

Ultimately, we must honour ourselves with the same amount of respect and love that we try to give to others. Only then do our minds and actions shift from victim hood to survival mode.

The truth is that we cannot control the actions of others or every circumstance that arises in our lives, but we can control how we react to them. We don’t have to be victims. It’s a choice. Whatever happens or comes our way, we must see it as a challenge and not an excuse.

Are you looking for a powerful partner to help you erase the negative victim tapes that play over and over in your head? Look no further than your local gym. Getting your blood flowing and your “feel good” hormones flowing through challenging exercise is one of the best ways to overcome negativity, beat the victim mentality, and put yourself on the fast track to feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy.

“You alone, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

– Gautama Buddha

The victim must realise that small changes in behaviour and attitudes can lead to big rewards.

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Carolyn Hansen is a certified fitness expert and fitness center owner who, with nearly 30 years of experience in competitive fitness and bodybuilding, has helped thousands of people start their weight loss journey to become strong, fit and youthful at any age.